Personally, I find a lot of the traditional conventions of yaoi pretty homophobic and sexist. And I don't particularly enjoy jpop or most manga art, although I enjoy other styles of Japanese music and art (less fandom-creating ones, however). If I could read Chinese, I'd probably be a big fan of wuxia novels.

I'm sure there are yaoi fandoms that aren't saturated with dominant/submissive dynamics and weepy ukes, but I personally don't have the energy to go looking for them. I don't think it's racist to prefer to avoid fandoms where stereotypes are held up as ideals.

I don't read Western romance novels much, either, for much the same reason.