Exactly. It is that old syndrome of living life through your children, and that is just wrong.

How every single person who met Naruto found a striking resemblance between Naruto with somebody else

I absolutely hate that. It make me want to scream and pull my hair. Naruto is Naruto and not someone else that is already dead and buried. You do justice by remembering the dead, not letting it colour the way you live or perceive the world. It just make me mad.

(jiraiya=gaara is fightening on many levels.)

I adore Jiraiya, but his inability to see beyond Sasuke is LIKE Orochimaru makes me angry. And I'm pretty sure you are right, it is as if to say wha tI did wasn't a failure because He Was Bad, so, I Gave Up. Sasuke is obviously like that, and now he's gone, it is not our fault (he's DAMN 12!). It must be because he's so like Orochimaru.

Grr.