In all fairness, the context that it came up in wasn't Random Strangers, but a SF convention, among people who knew each other (mostly), and who had full opt-in "if you're not wearing an "ask me" button, you don't get asked" as the plan.

Plus, the guy edited that post to mention:

And the chances that the Project would get fucked up, making con spaces more amenable to hordes of stalkers and mouthbreathers who will grope and maul women, are pretty damn big. Hell, it’s already made women feel less safe by me mentioning it, and that makes me feel like shit. As it should.

The Project itself, at least as done at Penguicon, has been turned by the miracle of reposting into some nightmare of eternal groping, female hunting, and a constant stream of denigration. And while that’s [...] not what happened at all [...t]hat easily could happen without proper supervision, male power being what it is… [...] If I’ve contributed to the idea that women are not safe, then I’ve failed with a capital “F,” regardless of the underlying reality. And if people think that all cons are filled with horrific swarms of gropers, well, then I’ve also failed.

So, as the guy's learned... What goes over among friends in fandom isn't going to fly in the general mundania. What would make me say, "no, spousal access only" at a con (and only be somewhat weirded; I attend a con that's big on exhibitionism and asking permission) is, "You back off NOW or the cops are being called" in any other circumstances.

I hope that me seeing the nuances doesn't fall into the category of "stop reading journal now." O:(