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PSA – Personal Space

  • Sep. 26th, 2008 at 4:17 PM
naanima: ([Misc] Don't forget)
I’m one of those people who don’t like being touched. More like, I don’t like hugs from people I don’t know (it takes anywhere between 2 to 3 years before I’ll let someone hug me without being completely freaked out). Hell, my dad have hugged like twice in the past 8 years and both times were for my graduation, and let me tell you I was COMPLETELY weirded out by the whole thing. Same with mum.

So, one of the work people who I have only known for 2 to 3 weeks, and have only ever had 1 real conversation with that lasted for about 5 mins, put his arm around my shoulders today. I didn’t exactly react with smiles and sunshine. There was unfortunately no elbow to the stomach but I did put the verbal smack down on him; apparently I can pull off a death glare. And well, he pretty much have avoided me all day, which is good, because I’m really pissed that he or anyone, male or female, would touch me without my OK’ing it.

Yes, it may not be a big deal for him or most people to be hugged by someone who couldn’t even be considered an acquaintance, but notice how I don’t keep friends who don’t respect me enough to accept my personal space issues. No one, I mean absolutely no one I consider a friend, male or female, touch me, or give me any form of hugs without my prior consent. So yes, this may be blowing things out of proportion, but seriously, RESPECT other people’s issues, especially personal space issues.

OK, that’s my PSA done. I’ll get around talking about Supernatural probably tomorrow morning. I need to torrent it when I get home, which will take a night, watch it and then think about it.

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[identity profile] new-kate.livejournal.com wrote:
Sep. 26th, 2008 10:08 am (UTC)
It just never stops being fascinating how the "normal" majority keeps convinsing people with quirks and different ideas to be tolerant and accomodating, but completely refuses to reciprocate. Heee, in similar situations I actually make like Cordelia from Angel, throw my hands up and yell "Personal bubble! Personal bubble!". It works marvellously because it looks like you're making a joke, not overreacting to other person's clumsy attempts to be nice and friendly as he understands it. Actually the only course of action he can take without making a scene (with him cast as a giant overreacting-to-jokes ass) would be to laugh awkwardly and move further away. Bwahahahaaa.
[identity profile] naanima.livejournal.com wrote:
Sep. 26th, 2008 03:17 pm (UTC)
but completely refuses to reciprocate. EXACTLY! This gets to me every single time. I RESPECT them and their behaviour but then they turn around and tread on mine. Grr.

I have to remember that one. It has been way too long since I saw Angel, I must remedy that. Gods, I miss Cordelia.
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[personal profile] archangelbeth wrote:
Sep. 26th, 2008 11:53 am (UTC)
*cries* You have no idea how hard it is to get my eight-year-old to understand this concept that not everyone likes to be hugged. She's seriously having to address this in behavioral therapy (aka "social skills classes"), because she wants to hug everyone. Waitresses she's only seen just now. Teachers who aren't looking in the hallway. Anyone she's remotely friendly towards. She's like a puppy. A really bouncy, ill-trained puppy!

*cries more* Extroverts with a tinge of what we think is way-high-functioning Asperger's are... Hard to be parents for.

Nevertheless, we are working on it. They're starting with paring down "hug the teacher" from once a day to just the beginning and the end of the week...
[identity profile] naanima.livejournal.com wrote:
Sep. 26th, 2008 03:19 pm (UTC)
But she is 8 and hugs every one. This guy so far have only hugged girls, and honestly it is starting to come across as really creepy and seedy.
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[personal profile] archangelbeth wrote:
Sep. 26th, 2008 06:08 pm (UTC)
Ooo, point. Ugh.

Still working on getting our puppy to not jump on people, though... It's my dread and terror that her huggaciousness would make her a tempting target for a sleeze-type. O:(

Luck with Mr. Creepy getting the message...
[identity profile] naanima.livejournal.com wrote:
Sep. 27th, 2008 12:49 am (UTC)
I would be perpetually paranoid if a child of mine went around huggig every one. Not so much for her but rather, as you said, the sleeze-type.

Oh, he got the message. I was very blunt and straight forward about it. I 100% believe shutting people down as blunt as possible. No mixed messages that way.

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